Jerrie, our elders need fixing. Our deacons don’t deak. You need to get members who left to come back. People need to give more. I’m not giving because of what the elders did. What are you going to do to deal with all these problems?”
Quite a bit — if what I teach and preach is true and practiced.
Edwin Friedman says one of the greatest mistakes of GOOD leaders is over-functioning.Helicopter parents rarely produce responsible adults. Click To Tweet
The work of the interim minister is to help the congregation grow — navigate through a good transition during this time of change from one preacher to another.
Interim ministry is not fill-in preaching. Fill-in preaching is showing up at appointed times and speaking. And good preaching can do much good. But interim ministry calls for more. It’s an opportunity to help people think about what’s happened and learn from it. I do this from the pulpit, in smaller classes and groups, and in individual conversations.
Different circumstances may call for an interim:
- The preacher resigned.
- The preacher died.
- The preacher was fired.
- The preacher retired.
- The preacher stayed for a long time.
- The last several preachers stayed a short time and left unhappy.
- The church is in conflict.
- The church is at peace — so much peace for so long it’s about to die. There’s a lot of peace in a cemetery.
- The church is at peace. The last preacher stayed a long time, did a good job, left because he chose to go and believes he made a good decision. People miss him because he was a good preacher, a good servant, and a true friend. No one will ever be able to replace him.
The church needs to grieve his absence to get ready to consider who will be the next preacher.It doesn’t seem wise to marry a week after burying one’s spouse. Click To Tweet
And if you’re looking for the one you just buried, that person is in the cemetery.
All these call for time to think and learn from what’s happening.
In my early ministry, the only method of conflict resolution I knew was to talk with people involved. I found if I talked to one first, I always talked with the one who was right. I knew he was because he told me he was right and the other was wrong.
My next step was to get the wrong one to come in to talk. The one who was right and I would get the wrong one to repent, and everyone would be happy. They would send me a thank you note and Christmas cards every year.
I’ve never received my first card from one of those peace conferences. I didn’t know and practice Proverbs 18:17:
The first one to plead his cause seems right,
Until his neighbor comes and examines him (NKJV).
My responsibilities and opportunities are to teach, coach, and encourage people in conflict to follow Jesus and His teaching. If I try to do the work for others, it probably won’t work. And if it did, the people failed to exercise their responsibility to follow the Lord’s way of repairing broken relationships. If I did their work, they didn’t grow from a lack of exercise.
I can’t grieve for another.
I can’t find the way out of lostness for another.
I can’t express and find relief from anger and despair for another.
I may be able to help someone find a better way through the wilderness between the Red Sea and the Promised Land.
My goal is to help, not replace, Christians who are finding their way to a new beginning.
In blog posts that follow, I’ll relate specifics about what I do as a guide on this adventure.